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Disclaimer: Nothing in this article is true. It is a collection of the author's perceptions; albeit perceptions that have served him well and in behaving as if they were true providing (in the author's perception) a useful and productive version of "reality".
In my forties it was time to remove the accumulated flab of a decade of corporate travel. I signed up for martial arts. A decade later I was ready to achieve the ultimate, a black belt. I was invited to attend a class I did not know existed.
The black-belt-only class.
I re-discovered being a beginner. Getting the black belt simply meant I had covered the basics. Now it was time to start learning.
Yet up to that point I had still done good work. Long ago I had the satisfaction of putting my hand through a stack of concrete roof tiles. I could perform a decent kata.
Even with basic skill you will do good work. I worried I wasn't a good coach. I beat myself up for years before realizing that just being there, listening with no other intention than to help, does help.
Like little grasshopper, (for those of you old enough to remember David Carradine) being consciously on the journey, seeking daily improvement, you will do good work on the way.
I started on the credentialing ladder when my coaching log had enough hours for MCC. I neither apologise for, nor recommend this. I just needed to build a business.
I found a mentor and realized I had much work to do even for PCC! Hours served did NOT equal skill.
Then came the challenge of making the shift to MCC. Like a martial arts movie, climbing the mountain to watch the master pour an overflowing cup of tea "find your intuition" "listen to what is not being said".
Like little grasshopper, the search took me around the world to find someone who could explain it in language that an ex corporate manager could understand.
Training at mastery level is rarer than iridium and harder to extract than plutonium.
My understanding (a perception that serves me) of what coaching mastery means is being totally in the moment, present and working at a deep level, co-creating an environment where the client can achieve deep awareness and breakthrough.
You cannot be in a state of flow, listening and responding in the moment from your subconscious, if you are firmly in your conscious awareness figuring out the next "powerful question" or step in your model.
Mastery is like driving a powerful sports car and taking the turn off the highway to an unknown mountain road. Leaving the discipline of lanes and speed limits for the twisting, undulating road with a surprise around every corner. You no longer mutter "mirror, signal, manoeuvre". Your senses observe and integrate sight, sound and feel; the shadow across the apex of the next curve, the feedback of tyre grip through the wheel, the twitch of the chassis through your seat, the growl of the engine and gears as you instinctively allow your body to do the right thing without consciously thinking about it as your entire being is focused on progressing forward as quickly as possible.
When you have this experience you wish the road would never end.
You can't learn to handle the mountain road while you stay on the highway.
This article first posted on the ICF global blog.