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You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
This quote by motivational speaker Jim Rohn, refers to the law of averages; any given situation will be the average of all outcomes. Life is often dictated by nurture or nature and nature is our environment; this includes who we choose to spend time with. Those in our direct circle have the ability to influence us beyond what we can ever imagine. It’s important to seek out those who help us better ourselves, and also encourage us to do the same for others.
Being a part of a community will require you to bring forth your authentic and true self. There is no room for pretending or holding back. Feel confident about who you are and be open about sharing your vulnerabilities. This is where true authentic connections happen; when we fully accept who we are - we naturally attract more experiences which align with our needs. Celebrate your uniqueness, the moment you start accepting yourself is when others will do the same. By being true to yourself, you will become a magnet for those authentic relationships that benefit you on a soul level.
Take stock of who your friends are, how they make you feel, what they spend time doing and what their future aspirations are. Do they align with your level of thinking? Does spending time with them excite you and make you feel good? Our friendships should uplift us, challenge us and inspire us. Life is simply too short for anything else. If you aren’t getting this from your circle it’s time to explore uncharted territory and seek those that set your world ablaze in the best possible way.
We all have an intrinsic need to belong. This is a deep rooted instinct which once existed solely to keep us alive, still has real implications on our emotional wellbeing. It allows us to have a better sense of self identity and validates important feelings we have about ourselves. When others judge us, we lean on our inner circle as a reminder of who we are, rather than accepting what others may project at us. Support from those who understand us is invaluable. When offered advice from those we trust, we feel cared for and guided. The wisdom that our tribe imparts on us is so important to our growth and journey in life. Our friends can also be a link to wonderful resources and inspiration. Our life blooms in fabulous ways when we are with the right people.
It’s so important to find a community with a leader who holds similar values and morals which you aspire to. Someone who is warm, supportive and inspiring. A leader's behaviour sets the tone for its following and how everyone works together. If something doesn’t feel right then don’t be afraid to look elsewhere. Your leader should be someone who you really look up to and who sets a wonderful example. Go where you are inspired!
The only way you are going to be able to integrate with a new community is if you get in on the action. Meeting new people and seeing where you feel most connected is crucial. Explore your interests and be open to meeting new friends and other like-minded people. It can be quite scary stepping outside of your comfort zone and feeling like the new kid on the block, but the only way to experience something different is to step into the ‘new’. The best things almost always happen outside of your comfort zone. So don’t be afraid to get out there and try new experiences and people. You could be one conversation away from a magical new chapter.
A key component of someone who truly belongs in a community is someone who takes an active role in helping things run smoothly. Communities by nature revolve around all of us doing our bit and each of us being a cog in the wheel to ensure everything is in good order. When we come together; magic happens. Utilise your strengths and put your hand up for roles which shine a light on your natural abilities. Making yourself invaluable helps you feel like you belong somewhere and you are able to express your talents in a beautiful way- by helping your community and those who are a part of it.
Don't get so caught up in finding a community that you settle for something which doesn’t feel right for you. Hold out for the right tribe, they will come. You won’t always come across the right people for you, first thing. Ask yourself how they make you feel and whether they are on the path which you also want to follow. By honouring what you seek, you will eventually attract what is right for you.
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When things around us change, it can offer us the perfect opportunity to reassess our lives. To stop and evaluate whether our current lifestyle, career and living situation truly reflects our dream scenario. If it doesn’t, now is the time to take control and create the life you have always wanted!
Life is too short to just let it pass you by or settle for less than. A shake-up in your circumstances can serve as a powerful and transformative crossroad on your path. Turning your wildest dreams into a reality doesn’t have to remain a fantasy. Use the momentum of change as a springboard to start taking steps towards achieving your goals and living your most authentic, happiest life.
Freedom means different things to different people. For some it may signify being able to go to the beach in the middle of the day and swim in the sea. For others it may mean more time with loved ones, or it could even mean not having to set an alarm in the morning. The first step to defining your own understanding of freedom is to start delving into your subconscious. Your thoughts may turn to getting a bigger salary. Move past the financial aspect and instead ask yourself what could that money buy you or how it would make you feel? Because in most cases, it’s not about the money itself - it’s about what it can afford you. A sense of security or the ability to satisfy your wanderlust, perhaps. Get to the root of the matter and discover what your heart longs for.
A life without a roadmap can take you just about anywhere. Instead of drifting along and letting life happen to you, it’s time to get specific about the direction you want to head into. Ask the big question: Five years from now, if everything was going exactly how you wanted it to, what would your life look like? Spend 30 minutes really mapping this out. Write about your daily routine, where you would be living, what kind of house you would have, who you would be with and how you would feel. Do not hold back! This is your dream - don’t put limitations on it! Every morning visualise and really feel your dream life as if it’s actually happening. Connect to the emotion of it and how incredibly happy it would make you feel. Carry this feeling with you throughout your day and wait for incredible synchronicities to unfold!
Sometimes it can feel as if where we are in life and where we want to get to is (still) worlds apart! But the first step to connecting the two is to take stock of where you are right now. Write down your current lifestyle and really get into the details. Then write a list of where you want to be. So if you’re currently living in England but you want to make the move to Mexico, write the two places next to one another. Then it’s time to get real with yourself and ask why this hasn’t happened yet, what is stopping you from going for it and what it would take to get there. You will feel the excitement bubbling up as you write these powerful realisations down! It’s time to take action - a dream without a plan is merely a wish! You are responsible for your life - no one else. It’s up to you to make it happen.
Sometimes it’s not about bringing in the new, but letting go of the old. In which areas of your life do you find yourself feeling trapped or uninspired? Perhaps you spend a lot of time looking after others and not enough time caring for yourself. Do you work too hard and place so much emphasis on your to-do lists that life feels less fun? Create a daily routine for yourself which points you in the direction of the new. Sometimes the process isn’t as glamorous or as exciting as we would have hoped. If you want to get fit and strong, for example, then you need to make the time to exercise and cook nourishing foods. Think about the results you want and ask yourself whether your current lifestyle marries up to your goals? Then look for ways to create more of what you want in your life, so that you can become the best version of yourself.
What stories are you telling yourself that will keep you stuck where you are? Our beliefs are just that; beliefs. Not facts, but a set of thoughts that we keep repeating in our heads. And sometimes they are outright lies! ‘I am not good enough’ or ‘I don’t have a talent’ are lies we tell ourselves in order to remain ‘safe’ by staying comfortable in a place that feels familiar to us. Write down these negative thoughts and ask yourself whether they align with your dream life. If they don’t, it’s time to change the narrative and create new ways of thinking that move you towards freedom and fulfillment.
They say that life begins outside of your comfort zone, and it’s absolutely true. Sometimes we can hold onto the idea of security and certainty so much that we fail to realise that the only thing it is certain to bring is guaranteed stagnation, boredom and unfulfillment. Change is hard, it thrusts us into the unknown where anything can happen. But guess what? That ‘anything’ could be your wildest dreams! Taking risks, exploring and getting out into the world is your key to opening up new doors.
We mentioned previously that creating a life of freedom does take responsibility and action. Those you see who have mastered this may appear to have landed on their feet at this moment. However, that journey would have taken dedication to arrive at the end goal and there would have been failures or knockbacks along the way. But these mistakes and setbacks only guide you to the right path and make you more resilient. Trust in the process. If you win, you win. If you lose, you learn. And if you never try... well, you will never know!
Release what society or other people expect of you. Let go of any pressures of where you should be by now and what you should have achieved. So many times we are coerced into following a certain profession, pushed into starting a family or buying a house - forget the conventional lifestyle and follow what truly makes you happy.
You might say, ‘I’m too old to change careers and follow my dream of becoming a documentary filmmaker’. But guess what? The time will pass anyway! It’s never too late to start. Do you want to know who else started late in life?
Start now! You never know what’s around the corner for you.
Freedom is not only determined by our external world, it can also be a feeling or state of mind that resides within us. Observe your internal monologue and listen to how the voice in your head speaks to you. Is it encouraging? Or is it critical? Be aware of the conversations you have with yourself, and shift them to loving and kind thoughts. In this way we can free ourselves from judgement and become our own cheerleader. Freedom always starts within, when we free ourselves from beliefs that hold us back or our ‘inner critic’, we can really start to feel empowered and blossom!
If you are looking for a career with more freedom then perhaps it’s time to become a coach. TNM hosts the world’s only ICF accredited Evolutionary Coach Training Program. This focusses beyond helping others gain success to helping the entire consciousness shift. Are you someone who thrives when helping others? Do people often seek you out for advice? Do others look to you for support? Now it's time to awaken your inner coach and begin a career in coaching. Book a free Discovery Call today with one of our TNM Academy Coaches to find out if this could be the career you have been waiting for.
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